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To Be Extraordinary, Be With People Who Are Extraordinary

This week’s tip comes from the four days I just spent in Costa Rica as a member of the Transformational Leadership Council. Members include Jack Canfield (creator of the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series and author of “The Secret”); Dr. John Gray (author of “Men Are From Mars, Women  Are From Venus”); and many others you may have heard of. Everyone is either a NY Times Best-Selling author, a world-class speaker or coach… some kind of thought leader in personal transformation. (I guess I’m kinda “guitar boy”).

I also meet yearly with a world class group called Speakers Roundtable, and three times a year withIMG_5993 M5, my mastermind group of five professional speaker  friends/brothers who brainstorm and hold each other accountable.

(To right, Mike w/Jack Canfield…)

While I am SOOO proud of my friends, I am not boasting… these are people whose brilliance makes me think, “And I’m here why?”


But friends, that’s the key! When I look at these people I see excellence, I see proof of what is possible in my life, and I receive encouragement to get there.

So try this… 

Quickly, make a list of the five people with whom you spend the most time… friends, colleagues, family, whomever. Go ahead, right now.

Now, be cutthroat honest, how did you feel when you wrote each name? Were you happy? Inspired? Or did you feel heavy? Do they lift you up, or hold you down? And, is the average of this list someone you aspire to become?

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” -Jim Rohn  

The best way to learn a foreign language is immersion; surround yourself completely with that language, right? Because it’s all you experience, soon it becomes second nature to speak that language. Similarly, when you surround yourself with people who  are extraordinary, extraordinary will become second nature for you.

(To right, Mike w/John Oates of “Hall and Oates“…)

Don’t get me wrong, I am anything but an elitist. We are here to love and help everyone, regardless of mindset or life situation. That is the focus of my life’s work and the reason I’m in Las Vegas.


However, when it comes to those you bring into your closest circle, you must be wary, wise, and a little selfish.

Do not be afraid to remove toxic people from your life.  It’s your life.

If you want to be great at your career, relationships, finances, health and spiritual life, find friends who are great at their careers, relationships, finances, health and spiritual lives. Simple formula.

(To right, Mike w/Magic Johnson…)

To become a Virtuoso, to be extraordinary, surround yourself with the extraordinary.

Live truly, truly live,



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